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  • What’s with all the big … eggplants?

    I love romance. But romance isn’t perfect, and one of my teeny-tiny pet peeves is all the big … well … dicks. A point I touch on with the hero, Levi, in Hawaii for Two. (So, this idea has been on my mind lately.) Some data … A 2020 review of research reported the average read more

  • Sex & … Golf?

    I am not a golfer, nor is my husband. In fact, due to some family stuff, golf is a bit of a trigger for me. So, when I read that a statistically significant number of men in a study about who’s having “magnificent sex” (conducted by Peggy Kleinplatz et al.) reported a golf book was read more

  • Sex & Menopause

    I recently spoke at a wellness retreat where there were several questions about menopause and sex. It was on folks’ minds. Sex later in life is never far from my mind. Afterall, I’m in my mid-fifties and I’m married to a lovely man. Spoiler alert: Sex happens. 😉 It’s been an area of focus as read more

  • It’s a shame about sexual shame.

    There are a lot of different ways folks can feel shame about sex. Growing up in a culture where sex or sexual pleasure is considered wrong. Living in a culture where only certain body types and features are considered beautiful and sexy. Experiencing sexual trauma. Or something else. There are many ways sex can be read more

  • Sex Ed for Grownups

    I talk incessantly about reading romance and its impact on our sex lives. The romance genre has evolved to be much more diverse and authentic in recent years, and the novels and tropes we are drawn to can tell us so much about ourselves. Sex education is failing us. Currently there are 12 states in read more

  • Coming Together

    Coming Together: Embracing your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility by Danielle Harel PhD and Celeste Hirschman MA This book written by two sex coaches in California focuses on our fantasies and what they call our “core desires” to help unlock a more satisfying sex life. They suggest real techniques to identify what read more

  • The Pleasure Gap

    The Pleasure Gap: American Women and the Unfinished Sexual Revolution by Katherine Rowland I’m currently reading The Pleasure Gap and loving it. So much so, that the first part of the book inspired my Medium article “Why You Should Stop Faking It.” We hear a lot about the orgasm gap. Studies have reported men have read more

  • Sex Talks – the book

    Dr. B recently got me started listening to this podcast called “Pillow Talks” which is a sex therapist and her husband talking all things relationships and sex positivity. It’s a great podcast, a little self-promotey, but the content is top notch, so muscle through. Or … pick up a copy of their book Sex Talks: read more

  • Come As You Are

    Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D is (or should be) a canonical book for vulva owners and anyone interested in pleasing a vulva. One of the things I mention a lot when I’m talking to people about sex positivity and romance is the read more

  • Shameless Sex Toys

    I often talk about Shameless Sex by Amy Baldwin and April Lampert (the book and the podcast). Dr. B and I attended a live event with these two lovely people. It was a small group talking all things sex positivity including toys. There are so many options out there. If you’ve tried a toy and read more