Resources

During my research and planning for a book, I often read non-fiction and other books for additional resources and information in order to write from a position of familiarity, if not knowledge. I’m not a doctor or any kind of expert, but I want to present an authentic representation of subjects when I can. Below are some of the resources I’ve used to inform my writing. Many were available at the library. Check ‘em out!

Sex & Sexual Health

Some of these books lean toward heterosexual relationships as this is what I primarily write. I want to recognize that this content could be applied across the sex and sexuality spectrum.

  • Kerner, Ian, She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, Harper Collins Publishers, 2004.
    • Sex instructions for men, oral sex, female orgasm, step-by-step techniques.
  • Kerner, Ian, Passionista: The Empowered Woman’s Guide to Pleasuring a Man, William Morrow Paperbacks, 2008.
    • Sex instructions for women, oral sex, male orgasm, step-by-step techniques
  • Paget, Lou, How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure, Broadway Books, 2000.
    • Techniques for manual and oral stimulation, penetration, and orgasm. Testimonials and real tips. Diagrams, toys, and resources.
  • Nagoski, Emily, Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life, Simon & Schuster; Updated edition, 2021.
    • Empowering women to love their bodies and enjoy sex and sexuality
  • Winks, Cathy, and Anne Semans, Good Vibrations Guide to Sex: The Most Complete Sex Manual Ever Written, Cleis Press, 2002.
  • Moon, Allison, Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex, Ten Speed Press, 2020.
  • Dodson, Betty, Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving, Harmony, 1996.
    • Betty Dodson was arguably one of the most recognized experts in sex and sexuality for decades. Any of her books would likely be worth your time.

Sex Later in Life
  • Blank, Joani (Editor), Still Doing It: Women & Men Over 60 Write About Their Sexuality, Down There Press, 2000.
    • Enlightening with contributor stories from many diverse backgrounds and experiences, all over the age of 60.
  • Price, Joan, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty, Seal Press, 2005.
    • Warm, witty, and honest book about the challenges and delights of older-life sexuality. Input from interviews and real-life accounts.

Women’s Health
  • McGregor, Alyson J., Sex Matters: How male-centric medicine endangers women’s health and what we can do about it, Quercus, 2020.
    • Informative and well worth a read empowering woman to take better control of their health.

The Tech Industry

I worked in tech for 20 years, but these books were eye opening.

  • Chang, Emily, Brotopia: Breaking Up the Boys’ Club of Silicon Valley, Penguin, 2019.
    • A look behind the curtain in today’s male-dominated tech world and shocking true stories
  • Garcia Martinez, Antonio, Chaos Monkeys: Obscene Fortune and Random Failure in Silicon Valley, Harper Paperbacks, 2018.

Food & Cooking

Mr. B is obsessed (in a good way) with Michael Pollan’s books and has had some influence.

  • Pollan, Michael, The Botany of Desire: A Plant’s-Eye View of the World, Random House Trade Paperbacks, 2002.
  • Pollan, Michael, The Omnivore’s Dilemma: A Natural History of Four Meals, Penguin, 2007.
  • Pollan, Michael, Cooked: A Natural History of Transformation, Penguin Books, 2014.
  • Thompson, Wright, Pappyland: A Story of Family, Fine Bourbon, and the Things That Last, Penguin Press, 2020.
    • History of one of Bourbon’s best and most famous brands.
  • Bourdain, Anthony, Kitchen Confidential, Bloomsbury Publishing PLC, 2013.
    • Famed chef, gone too soon. Great insight into the realities of a professional kitchen.

Miscellaneous
  • Azerrad, Michael, Our Band Could Be Your Life: Scenes from the American Indie Underground 1981-1991, Back Bay Books, 2002.
    • A look at some great bands from my youth. How they got their start, and the sacrifices of too many bandmates living out of a van in order to play and progress the music they loved.