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from the Braver Blog

  • Good or Bad at Sex?

    I’ve been re-editing my Perry Harbor Series, and while I’m fixing/clarifying a few things, it’s been a pleasure to revisit these characters and their journeys facing challenges. The same challenges many of us face too. Your Two Lips (Book 1) centers around the idea of being enough.Finn is struggling to feel like he’s man enough: read more

  • Don’t Give Up – Ask for What You Want

    At almost every big bookfair I attend, I have at least one patron tell me that they are “done with that part of my life.” Meaning sex, passion, partners, and/or intimate pleasure. And it makes my heart ache. The Bedroom Gap by Dr. Maria Sophocles (Greek philosopher relative? – I think so) is a much-needed game changer read more

  • Young Women Have Got This

    On a recent episode of Sex w/Emily, one of my favorite podcasts, Emily interviewed Chelsey Goodan, considered the “teenage girl whisperer” and the author of “Underestimated: The Wisdom and Power of Teenage Girls”. Chelsey was an academic tutor for years and within that professional relationship, she found many girls from all walks of life opened up about their lives and journeys read more

  • Monsters Do It Better

    If you think you aren’t “into” Monster Romance, you may be wrong. The “monster” in monster romance can include the most out-there thing a person can imagine to mainstream werewolves and vampires. Are you into “Twilight”? Then you’re into monster romance, according to some experts.* So, why is Monster Romance such a big deal? Some read more

  • Do Men NEED Sex?

    No, they don’t. (Easy for me to say. I’m a woman.) Due to my writing and interest in sex positive representation in the genre, I’ve been lucky to connect with many sex experts and therapists. Recently, I was talking with one and she said a lot of couples come into her office and the male partner read more

  • Get Her Motor Going

    I was a busy mom. I had a stressful job in tech. My husband did too. We had two kids we were trying to raise in a culture of pressure and affluence. Spoiler: It’s not as fun as it sounds. My days were filled with hustle at work, transporting people from here to there, cheering read more

  • Sexual Fantasies & Healing

    I spend a lot of time thinking about people’s sexual fantasies. As a steamy romance writer, understanding common sexual fantasies is a key part of writing intimate relationships that resonate with readers. Some of us have perfectly vanilla mainstream fantasies. Others of us do not. Just because we have a fantasy about something doesn’t mean read more

  • Stop Faking It

    Let’s give today’s men some credit. They can handle the truth if their female partner just isn’t getting there this time. They experience combat. They run big businesses. They lift heavy things and so much more. Men are capable adult human beings exactly like women. So why do we women feel the need to protect read more

  • Who’s Afraid of Cunnilingus?

    One of my books, “Your Heart”, is set at a resort loosely based on a place I travel to with my family and close friends every summer. One year, I gave the resort owner a couple of copies of the book, and they placed them in their library. Awesome. Then my 17-year-old daughter and her read more

  • Who’s Afraid of Fellatio?

    One summer morning, I was on my deck sipping coffee and feverishly studying the book “Passionista: The Empowered Woman’s Guide to Pleasuring a Man” by Dr. Ian Kerner, researching for the novel I was writing. In my periphery, I heard an alarm. Not a rare occurrence in my close-knit neighborhood, but this one was unfamiliar read more