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  • Romance for Better Sex (1)

    Yes, I believe reading romance novels can improve your sex life. But smart people don’t read romance. Orthose books are unrealistic or porn or fill-in-the-blank with whatever negative idea you’ve heard about the genre. Then keep reading because I have a point. Note: according to the Oxford Classic Dictionary, many scholars would argue that representing read more

  • A Day in the Life … 2/10/2026

    As someone with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (effectively managed with medication and hormone therapy for nearly a decade), the idea that I must be on social media to reach readers and sell books is daunting at times. I try to keep my feed to only books and positive vibes, but the other stuff sneaks in. Recently, read more

  • Sex Scripts & Rollercoasters

    Sex scripts? A sex script is a plan or order for how you think sex is supposed to progress. I do this. He does that. We do this. Then I climax. Then he does. This is a pretty common sex script often reinforced in steamy romance novels. Many of us have sex scripts, partnered or read more

  • A Day in the Life … 1.30.26

    Just another day in the life of your average sex positivity advocate … can lead to smiles and a brighter day. I was recently asked to teach an online workshop when I would be away on vacation. All good, but I was worried about logistics. So, I called the golf resort where we were planning read more

  • Mindfulness in the Bedroom

    It’s a new year and the gym membership commercials are out in full force. It’s time to get healthy in all the ways. One healthful practice we hear a lot about is mindfulness. To be clear, I’m for it, but sometimes it can seem a little too easy or too complicated depending on the situation. read more

  • Holiday Quickies

    Sex in the time of the holidays … amIright? There are cookies to bake, presents to find (my typical point of failure), parties to host, decorations to hang, greeting cards to send … the list goes on. Time is of the essence and taking time for the slow build to full sexy times can seem read more

  • Becoming Cliterate

    Yep, you read that right.  Being “cliterate” means being informed and educated about all things clit.  From basic, and not so basic, female anatomy, to common myths about sex and the clit, to how to communicate your desires effectively to your partner; this book is a basic primer and an advanced guide. Dr. Laurie Mintz is a read more

  • You Deserve Pleasure

    As a steamy romance writer, I spend quite a bit of time thinking about pleasure. What would this character want to do in bed and what would feel good to them? It’s a gift to be able to spend so much time thinking about pleasure, because I doubt enough of us do. Western culture “has read more

  • Orgasms Aren’t Everything

    Most steamy love scenes in today’s romance novels end in a shattering, life-affirming, love-filled climax. Easily sending the message that orgasm is the goal of sex. But orgasms don’t have to be the goal of physical intimacy. Not everyone can orgasm or orgasm easily, AND orgasms shouldn’t necessarily be the end. What about all that lovely read more

  • Dirty Talk – How to…

    Once during a workshop at a wellness seminar, one participant (a man) asked me if women really liked dirty talk. I responded that I couldn’t speak for all women, but given dirty talk is a common element in many romance novels, primarily read by women, one could conclude women do at least think about it. read more