Once during a workshop at a wellness seminar, one participant (a man) asked me if women really liked dirty talk. I responded that I couldn’t speak for all women, but given dirty talk is a common element in many romance novels, primarily read by women, one could conclude women do at least think about it.

All dirty talk is not the same. I’ll let you, beautiful reader, determine the specifics around “dirty”, and I’ll just touch on the talking part.

According to the website OMGYes.com, “research shows that women who gave specific details about what makes sex more pleasurable for them were eight times more likely to be happier in their relationships and six times more likely to be sexually satisfied.” !!! 🔥❤️🔥

Talking about sex can be difficult for many reasons, but if more satisfying sex and happier relationships are possible, isn’t it worth a try?

“Dirty talk” doesn’t have to be dirty. It can simply be feedback, also called signaling, which is communicating about what your partner is doing right. It is not criticism. Hearing what they are doing well encourages a partner, particularly if they are men. Some men consider sexual skill an essential part of their identity and desperately want to hear you say they have it.

Communicate in the moment. Tell them what feels good and ask for more of that. Or don’t use words at all. Moans, breathing, and the ways you move (ex. shift your body so his hand is exactly where you want it or guide his hand there) are also ways of communicating. Let your body do the “dirty talking” for you.

Dirty talk can be sweet. Maybe your partner wants you to tell them how beautiful/handsome they are, how much you love them, or how much they turn you on. Maybe you want them to tell YOU those things. What better opportunity than when you’re naked together?

Any partner worth your time wants to make you feel good. So, tell them how. Or explore together to find out what each of you like. It’s okay to start slowly and see how your partner reacts. You deserve great sex. So, talk about it.

Source: OMGYes.com. Affiliated with the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University in Bloomington, this website provides legit, research-based information designed for educational purposes. If you have a vulva or want to please a vulva owner, this is the resource you’ve been looking for.