Recommendations

Yep, you read that right.  Being “cliterate” means being informed and educated about all things clit.  From basic, and not so basic, female anatomy, to common myths about sex and the clit, to how to communicate your desires effectively to your partner; this book is a basic primer and an advanced guide. Dr. Laurie Mintz is a sex therapist as well as college professor and sexual health researcher. Her book Becoming Cliterate is a one-stop-shop for anyone wanting to learn more. It’s clear and easy to understand with real-world suggestions on the basics of how to please a vulva owner along with effective communication strategies… read more

I am not a golfer, nor is my husband. In fact, due to some family stuff, golf is a bit of a trigger for me. So, when I read that a statistically significant number of men in a study about who’s having “magnificent sex” (conducted by Peggy Kleinplatz et al.) reported a golf book was one of the top resources that helped their sex life, I had to read it. And let me tell you, I can totally see why. The book The Inner Game of Golf by W. Timothy Gallwey has been around for a long time, is a… read more

Coming Together: Embracing your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility by Danielle Harel PhD and Celeste Hirschman MA This book written by two sex coaches in California focuses on our fantasies and what they call our “core desires” to help unlock a more satisfying sex life. They suggest real techniques to identify what they call your “hottest sexual movie” and even walk you through the process for yourself. What stuck out for me most was their belief that our fantasies can be part of our healing process from past hurts or trauma, whether or not those hurts were… read more

The Pleasure Gap: American Women and the Unfinished Sexual Revolution by Katherine Rowland I’m currently reading The Pleasure Gap and loving it. So much so, that the first part of the book inspired my Medium article “Why You Should Stop Faking It.” We hear a lot about the orgasm gap. Studies have reported men have nearly 2x the number of orgasms as women. There are lots of reasons for this gap, but what about pleasure with or without orgasm? At my book signings, I talk to women who tell me “I’m done with romance” or “that part of my life… read more

Dr. B recently got me started listening to this podcast called “Pillow Talks” which is a sex therapist and her husband talking all things relationships and sex positivity. It’s a great podcast, a little self-promotey, but the content is top notch, so muscle through. Or … pick up a copy of their book Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa and Xander Marin at the bookstore or your local library. I really enjoyed the book (and the podcasts we’ve listened to). The information is totally approachable and full of examples from real couples with… read more