Sex positivity

No, they don’t. (Easy for me to say. I’m a woman.) Due to my writing and interest in sex positive representation in the genre, I’ve been lucky to connect with many sex experts and therapists. Recently, I was talking with one and she said a lot of couples come into her office and the male partner read more

I was a busy mom. I had a stressful job in tech. My husband did too. We had two kids we were trying to raise in a culture of pressure and affluence. Spoiler: It’s not as fun as it sounds. My days were filled with hustle at work, transporting people from here to there, cheering read more

I spend a lot of time thinking about people’s sexual fantasies. As a steamy romance writer, understanding common sexual fantasies is a key part of writing intimate relationships that resonate with readers. Some of us have perfectly vanilla mainstream fantasies. Others of us do not. Just because we have a fantasy about something doesn’t mean read more

Let’s give today’s men some credit. They can handle the truth if their female partner just isn’t getting there this time. They experience combat. They run big businesses. They lift heavy things and so much more. Men are capable adult human beings exactly like women. So why do we women feel the need to protect read more

In part one of this article, I mentioned how romance novels have evolved to be more diverse than the standard hero-on-a-horse/damsel-in-distress trope. Though we still love a good alpha male/ingenue story. “Fifty Shades of Grey” anyone? But modern romance novels are not all about alphas and ingenues. From including diverse characters to safe sex practices read more

Yes, I believe reading romance novels can improve your sex life. But smart people don’t read romance. Orthose books are unrealistic or porn or fill-in-the-blank with whatever negative idea you’ve heard about the genre. Then keep reading because I have a point. Note: according to the Oxford Classic Dictionary, many scholars would argue that representing read more

As a steamy romance writer, I spend quite a bit of time thinking about pleasure. What would this character want to do in bed and what would feel good to them? It’s a gift to be able to spend so much time thinking about pleasure, because I doubt enough of us do. Western culture “has read more

I love romance. But romance isn’t perfect, and one of my teeny-tiny pet peeves is all the big … well … dicks. A point I touch on with the hero, Levi, in Hawaii for Two. (So, this idea has been on my mind lately.) Some data … A 2020 review of research reported the average read more