Yep, you read that right. Being “cliterate” means being informed and educated about all things clit. From basic, and not so basic, female anatomy, to common myths about sex and the clit, to how to communicate your desires effectively to your partner; this book is a basic primer and an advanced guide.
Dr. Laurie Mintz is a sex therapist as well as college professor and sexual health researcher. Her book Becoming Cliterate is a one-stop-shop for anyone wanting to learn more. It’s clear and easy to understand with real-world suggestions on the basics of how to please a vulva owner along with effective communication strategies and step-by-step tips to try with your partner.
I’d recommend this book to any young person coming of age who wants to be informed and feel more confident about sex and experiencing sexual pleasure as, or giving sexual pleasure to, a vulva owner.
Studies show that when asked, most men report that pleasing their partner is their top sexual priority. Yet we don’t tell them how to do it, and everybody loses. This book will tell them and their partners all they need to know to get started.
I especially love how she touches on some of my favorite topics like:
- Most women can’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation.
- Using a vibe to stimulate your clit, alone or with a partner, is healthy and no more addicting than a carpenter being addicted to a drill. It’s a tool that can do the job better so it’s the one you use.
- Communication about sex and what feels good is essential to having good sex, whether it’s with your long-term partner or a hookup.
- Penis size doesn’t matter, so lay off the dick jokes.
- Kink is not a problem. Any type of sex between consenting adults is healthy sex.
- Orgasm isn’t everything.
- You come first or they come first or only one comes or you come together, it’s all good sex.
- Sex is a skill that has to be learned, just like anything else.
- Don’t say vagina when discussing female genitals. That’s just where the penis goes. The real star is the vulva, the outer genitalia that is usually the source of female sexual pleasure. Viva la vulva!
- Sex education is lacking and it’s time to do better.
While the majority of the book is talking to women about their bodies, Dr. Mintz has included a long summary chapter at the end which is specifically directed to men or anyone who wants to know how to please a vulva owner in the bedroom … or on the sofa or … well anywhere that presents itself. 😉
Buy a copy for yourself or someone in your life. Let’s make the world a more cliterate place!