Coming Together: Embracing your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility by Danielle Harel PhD and Celeste Hirschman MA This book written by two sex coaches in California focuses on our fantasies and what they call our “core desires” to help unlock a more satisfying sex life. They suggest real techniques to identify what they call your “hottest sexual movie” and even walk you through the process for yourself. What stuck out for me most was their belief that our fantasies can be part of our healing process from past hurts or trauma, whether or not those hurts were… read more

The Pleasure Gap: American Women and the Unfinished Sexual Revolution by Katherine Rowland I’m currently reading The Pleasure Gap and loving it. So much so, that the first part of the book inspired my Medium article “Why You Should Stop Faking It.” We hear a lot about the orgasm gap. Studies have reported men have nearly 2x the number of orgasms as women. There are lots of reasons for this gap, but what about pleasure with or without orgasm? At my book signings, I talk to women who tell me “I’m done with romance” or “that part of my life… read more

Dr. B recently got me started listening to this podcast called “Pillow Talks” which is a sex therapist and her husband talking all things relationships and sex positivity. It’s a great podcast, a little self-promotey, but the content is top notch, so muscle through. Or … pick up a copy of their book Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa and Xander Marin at the bookstore or your local library. I really enjoyed the book (and the podcasts we’ve listened to). The information is totally approachable and full of examples from real couples with… read more