The Braver Blog

  • A Day in the Life … 1.30.26

    Just another day in the life of your average sex positivity advocate … can lead to smiles and a brighter day. I was recently asked to teach an online workshop when I would be away on vacation. All good, but I was worried about logistics. So, I called the golf resort where we were planning to stay and asked the woman about the internet quality, and did they have a private office space I could use. She said the only business space available was a desk and some chairs in the lobby. I said, “I teach about sexual health, so… read more

  • Mindfulness in the Bedroom

    It’s a new year and the gym membership commercials are out in full force. It’s time to get healthy in all the ways. One healthful practice we hear a lot about is mindfulness. To be clear, I’m for it, but sometimes it can seem a little too easy or too complicated depending on the situation. It doesn’t have to be complicated, not in the bedroom Mindfulness is predominantly about being focused only on the present moment without judging any feelings or experiences in that moment. All the sex advice I’ve read from experts says that for sex to be great,… read more

  • Holiday Quickies

    Sex in the time of the holidays … amIright? There are cookies to bake, presents to find (my typical point of failure), parties to host, decorations to hang, greeting cards to send … the list goes on. Time is of the essence and taking time for the slow build to full sexy times can seem impossible. “Maybe after the new year, Honey.”Or not. Here are some ideas to help keep the steam in your holidays. Hug your partner. I know it seems simple, but it’s true. Research shows that a 20 second hug releases several good hormones in our brains… read more

  • Becoming Cliterate

    Yep, you read that right.  Being “cliterate” means being informed and educated about all things clit.  From basic, and not so basic, female anatomy, to common myths about sex and the clit, to how to communicate your desires effectively to your partner; this book is a basic primer and an advanced guide. Dr. Laurie Mintz is a sex therapist as well as college professor and sexual health researcher. Her book Becoming Cliterate is a one-stop-shop for anyone wanting to learn more. It’s clear and easy to understand with real-world suggestions on the basics of how to please a vulva owner along with effective communication strategies… read more

  • You Deserve Pleasure

    As a steamy romance writer, I spend quite a bit of time thinking about pleasure. What would this character want to do in bed and what would feel good to them? It’s a gift to be able to spend so much time thinking about pleasure, because I doubt enough of us do. Western culture “has a problem with pleasure in general,” says Dr. Emily Morse in her book “Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Own Pleasure”.  And not just sexual pleasure. We feel guilty eating that piece of decadent chocolate. We would never get a… read more